The Art and Magic of Helping Others
by Thadd Presley
Why do we do things for others? Why bother? Our hearts tell us to puts others first, but it often doesn’t make sense to us on the surface. I’d like to know the answer to many of these questions, but one of them comes ahead of all the rest: why do we desire to put ourselves last? It just seems backward to let others go first. Why do we say “yes” when we want to say “no?” Doesn’t it make more sense to help ourselves and allow others to benefit from the wealth, health, and knowlegde we aquire afterwards? It might seem that way but that’s not the way the universe words.
The universe? What does that have to do with anything?
The universe is everything out there and we are stuck down here.
What if I told you that we can have anything we want, but we have to ask for it?
Seem like magic? I know, it does.
And that is exactly what it looks like when it happens.
The easiest way for me to explain it is like this: the more help you give someone else, the more power and influence you will have over the infinite resources of the universe.
I know that sounds like a fairy-tale and many people have not witnessed this amazing miracle in their lives, but it is true and it happens all of the time to ordinary people just like me.
I am living proof that this concept pays off quickly and unfailingly. I am a walking-talking billboard of generosity that comes from the magical, fantastical universe.
There are times I talk with my friends about “asking the universe” for what you want. It never fails to intrigue them and I can see the doubt in their eyes. But they listen because they want it to be true so bad.
It often amazes when what I’m telling them begins to happen. Not eventually, but usually very quickly. If the magic does not happen immediately, it’s within that day or at most the next. It’s just a fact of the universe, I tell them, and together we are absolutely amazed. No matter how or when it happens, whoever I’m sharing my “magic” with is there to witness it and they become endowed with the gift as well.
They always had the power to ask the universe, but they didn’t believe it would ever work for them. They lacked faith. All the stories through out history of miracles, magicians, and even Jesus wasn’t enough to give them the faith to try it. But, seeing it happen one time pushed them over the threshold into a new world. In to a world where they are creators as well as the created.
You think none of this can be true, right?. That there’s no way the universe just give people the things they ask for. You might think that for many reasons, but one of the biggest seeds of doubt is myself (the writer of this post.) You might doubt because I’m not super wealthy or wildly successful person. In fact, you’ve probably never heard of me and until now never read a word I’ve written. If that is true, then I’m very happy you are still reading this and I have a lot of work to do.
What if I told you I’ve done everything I’ve wanted to do and I have more than enough money than I need? Would you think that’s a miracle all by itself? If not, I want to share a few of the things I did. I’m not bragging, I’m only documenting.
Things I’ve done that most people won’t get to:
toured as a bass player in a rock and roll band
opened for a world famous band
met famous rock stars from America and Europe
worked with famous people
published several books (fiction and poetry)
recorded a great album with a rock band
recorded a solo album
currently publishing a fiction blog
work for myself writing fiction and other things
traveled the United States and a bit of Canada,
met a woman at 23 who still loves me and I love her,
live in a great place with a great view from the porch
found an endless supply of freedom and love
I could go on but I don’t want this to be about what I have, but instead about doing for others.
I have a huge problem saying NO. I just can’t do it. More often than not, I put other people before myself and my own needs.Yeah, you can probably understand how I came to write this and that putting myself last begins to get old. All of this is largely my fault.
I don’t have to say YES, YES, YES to everyone and constantly create scenarios where I feel used. Instead, very recently, I have realized that I have to say YES to myself sometimes. This will allow me to be in a better place when it comes time to help others.
You see what happened there?
I am putting myself first, but it’s for others. It’s not a selfish desire to want to help myself. It’s not selfish to want things. By putting myself ahead of another person, especially when it’s done in the interest of helping them, will demonstrate (to myself and them) that I am useful and important.
Helping others demonstrates my strength and knowledge of the world around me and it shows my respect for the universe that gives me the strength and resources in the first place. If I give my time and talent the respect it deserves, then people around me will begin to see that my help is a gift. It is not only given freely, but it is efficient and powerful.
More than anything, by helping others, I will see myself as a needed part in, not only my own life, but in the existence of others. If I allow myself to be run down and used to the point of being useless, then I’ll lose confidence in my own ability and begin to doubt myself. At that point, I won’t be able to help anyone or myself.